Many who live an open life, eventually and hopefully become part of a satisfying long term relationship. I have had many over the years, but I will say that I had one that was probably as perfect as it will ever get. Love with someone who shared my interests, views on life, and loved me as deeply as I did him.
For many who are in such a relationship and are open sexually, reaching out to explore with others is as natural as breathing. I found during this time period with my "one", that the most satisfying exploration occured with another couple, two great friends that shared our views, and was just as open sexually as we were. The four of us became great friends, great lovers, and enjoyed life to the fullest. It was the happiest time of my life and the most sexually satisfying.
When I lost my love from this world, I do not know what I would have done without this couple. They remain my best friends and still my lovers. But we all recognize the loss of my love...and his presence is missed and no longer there to completing our circle. To this day, I still search for that. I may never find it again, but I have hope.
Couples out there exploring, do so for many different reasons. I have always found that a couple who is most successful at this are two people, very much in love, very confident within their own sexual relationship, and are not looking for anything to fill something lacking....they are looking and exploring simply to add spice and enhance their own relationship.
A friend of mine recently, talking about this, offered his hopes as they began to explore with other couples. He and his wife hoped to find another couple that almost mirrored them in personalities. They wanted a couple who had similiar views, but had enough differences in interests to add that aspect to their relationship.
In my opinion, the least successful is a couple who are trying to save their marriage or are adding this aspect of sexual exploration because they are not satisfied or are unhappy by their own sexual relationship.
Couples exploring with other couples is not a new or 20th century concept. Take a look at the picture below...it is from a temple in West India. Konark Sun Temple also known as the Black Pagoda, is a 13th-century Sun Temple at Konark, in Orissa. The erotic sculptures can be found all over the temple...this is one that depicts two couples...one standing and embracing being sexually caressed by another kneeling.
I would like to begin sharing my work with you .... a short story I wrote several years after that time period. It is dear my heart and I have never officially published it with any publishing house. I hope you enjoy it. It is a part of me. The level of sex would probably be somewhat "vanilla" in this day and age, but still sexy enough to be sensual. It is what I call, a slice of life erotic piece of fiction.
Sancre Darling
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A Morning Shared
....an erotic short story by S. E. Darling
Oh my goodness!! First of all, you are quite an open and exciting individual. My husband and I had a couple in our lives, much like yours. We spent all the time we could together...until they got divorced. I stayed friends...and lovers with both (Please don't anyone judge me because I stayed lovers with them and my husband did not. That was his choice.) My friend(male)passed away a little of a year ago.
ReplyDeleteNow let's get to your short - Sancre, if that's vanilla, then I really like vanilla. lol It may not have had all of the hard, explicit stuff in there, but it was erotic and HOT! It was full of emotion and, having been in a similar situation, it brought back excellent memories. Thank you for sharing it with me. I'm excited to learn more about you as your blog grows. (((hugs)))
As I said, I don't know what I would have done without them. To this day, they remain my best friends in every way, including sexy. If you have ever had that type of relationship...you don't want to let go of it. I will say, that it has been a challenge as I have tried to find a new man in my day to day life that would accept this. I am sorry to hear about your loss of your male friend. The loss is just as profound especially if your relationship with them was long term. Thank you very much for posting your comments on this and sharing your life with me. I love meeting people who have similiar views about this.
ReplyDeleteThe saddest part about my situation is my best friend, the female half of the couple. She has decided that finding God, and a new husband, doesn't leave any time for me. I was okay when she decided she couldn't be with me any more, but when she started saying things like I needed to go to church and re-evaluate my life, well, that didn't go over too well. Over the years, we've drifted apart and after he died, we really lost touch and have only spoke twice in the last 8 months. It is what it is, but I miss them. It's nice for me to meet someone else with similar views too.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately for many, life just simply changes in directions we do not want. In my case, I have been very lucky with my friends. I have known this couple longer than any other "relationship" that I have had. And they have a very stable and loving marriage. But for them, my life is the unpredictable aspect. I joke with them that "they" are just to damn choosey...lol. I am serious about this...lol. It has been very hard for me since my love died to find a partner who was comfortable in the sharing for any length of time...and that has been the problem. I have had some really loving relationships since then, and for some, this aspect of my life has been exciting to begin with, but ultimately, the men feel that eventually in the 'settling down" portion of the "program", this part of my life should be sacrificed. I have not been able to accept that as something that I need to change, especially since I am pretty much open and honest about it from the beginning of most of my relationships. would love to talk about this more privately if you wish.
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